I did the unthinkable...  After all of the conversations I had with girlfriends, guy friends, my mother...  I began dating a separated man with children.  What in the world was I thinking?  I don't know.  But I do know that he was fabulous and I didn't care if he had 14 children.  I went against everything I had ever said about picking and choosing the right man.  What did I know?  I was only 24.  I was a single parent of a little boy and I wanted to feel complete.  I thought he was the answer, and in many ways, he was.

What I wasn't in "the know" about, was how to manage myself, my feelings, or the relationship as the "second one".   I was completely unprepared for that, and stumbled along the way.  Ok, I tripped and nearly broke my own legs.  Even so, I knew no one who could relate to my situation or my feelings and I was slowly beginning to think that I was the one who was the root of all evil.  I really wish that I had the friends I have today, back then.  I really wish that there had been *someone*, heck even a good book would have done me a world of good.  Someone who could understand my insecurities, my constant questioning of circumstances, and my strong will with respect to making it work within my marriage.

So, I suppose, that you, the reader, are benefitting from my sweat equity, and that of the other second wives who have contributed to this ebooklet! Soak it up, and savour it. We didn't produce this ebooklet in vain.

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