Read what everyday women have to say about Second Wives Club.com:

I learned so MANY things here that truly DID save my marriage (mostly about getting DH to set BOUNDARIES with the BB). These days, things are much better, but I still occasionally have to VENT about the BB, and it's a lot safer here than anywhere else!

Plus I've gotten tons of great recipes here! Isn't that funny?

Lucky

These ladies have save my life on several occasions. Even by kicking me in the butt. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't come here.

HisAngel

The ladies here have saved my sanity AND my marriage more then once. I agree the ladies here are wonderful.

karbear

There are so many ladies here that I admire and respect. This is the best sounding board ever.

Shawna

I really really really appreciate that I have a place where I can come to vent, get advice, to have people talk me down, and etc.

jodine

I plan to stick around - I feel like I've found a home!

midori

Thank you for saving me. SWC has had its share of growing pains but you've held strong through it all and it is STILL the safe haven you created to find your own sanity all those years ago.

Angela

It is a real comfort to get here and read that a lot of what I was feeling and going through was similar to my sistahs!

sooz

I found this place right before DH and I got married. Unfortunately I didn't find it soon enough to avoid some steplife mistakes, but this place has kept me from making SO many more

hockeyfan

I just felt so alone that I turned to the internet and thankfully found this place. I remember feeling AMAZING RELIEF instantly that I was no longer alone.

deena

I was sooooooo happy (as sad as that is) to find out I wasn't the only person with a psycho BB. I've stayed because I've made some GREAT friends and because 99% of the time this is the ONLY place where I feel understood.

MelissaP

I feel so grateful that I found this place. This has become a safe haven for me. I didn't post much at first but I read a lot and gleaned so much from other peoples posts, now I feel safer here and post more. Eventually, you ladies won't be able to shut me up.

scubagymnast

I can't imagine not being here you girls have helped me alot.

Jen

SWC has been my saving grace, even though I don't really have issues with the skids, just the bb. It has so helped with my marriage - my dh appreciates my being able to vent to someone other than him!

Amanda

I have made friendships on this site that will undoubtedly last for a lifetime. I am so thankful (and so is DH) that I found this site

msbrady

I was searching for someone - anyone - who had ever heard of a case where permanent alimony had been overturned and I was willing to *pay* to find out. Little did I know how many other issues I needed help with. I remember being amazed by the humor and resilience of the older --- I mean more experienced ---sistahs ( I think I am one of the actual OLDEST). Till I met you all I would not have believed there was anyone else as nuts as WW. At some point friendship has become more important than the step issues. I know I will be staying at least till Shawna's SDs move out!

Marapolis

I found the site doing a search for support for stepmoms. Can't even imagine where I would be without you ladies!

SweetCarolina

I talk about this place all the time now, and call it my saving grace!

SherR

I was so glad to find this place (not glad that others have to deal with similar situations, but glad for the comfort in knowing I'm not alone). People IRL always seem sympathetic but they cannot possibly understand this life. I had never dealth with PAS (my parents are still married and in love) and my exh and I are close. I didn't understand how children could be so brainwashed!

Geeeda

It started as a desperate search for answers and evolved to friendships that will never end.
DP has said time and again, we would not be here with these kids if not for SWC.

hunny

This place saved my sanity! I stay for the same reason Steppen does...to give back. And because I have made too many friends here to leave.

joy

Thank God for SWC. I'd be divorced and miserable instead of married and moderately happy. SWC taught me I have to change how *I* behave and that has been a life saver.

sue

DH and I will have been together 8 years on the 13th of this month... we wouldn't be here if it wasn't for SWC. (Besides, it's a heck of a lot cheaper than therapy with someone who just doesn't get it. )

Mandi

discotech

This place is a haven. THe sistahs calm you when you need it, tell you when you've crossed the line AND support you exactly when you need it.

evangeline

mandymo

I found home.

Joy

This site saved my marriage.

Christine

Honestly outside of my DH this site is the best thing that has every happened to me in Step life.

HisDreamGirl

I have been alone since day one. It took me 11 years to find support from other stepmoms. This site has given me in one day a self confience boost like I haven't had in 11 years. I really don't care if he doesn't like this site. I'm not here to make him feel better about his role as the DH. I've suffered everyday from the guilt of thinking that I was making huge mistakes and I was a failure as a SM and got little support from my DH. Yesterday I talked to and read about woman all over who have gone through exactly what I have gone through. I realized for the first time that I am not crazy, I haven't been failing and I haven't been making all this up. It has been happening, I can get through it and it will be O.K.

tookie

It starts with a desperate search for answers and evolves into an arms wide open friendship that you once only read about in books. And who was once a frantic troubled terrified SM becomes a friend for life. I love SWC!

buns

I'm sitting here with my cup of coffee , I'm realizing how peaceful this moment, right here, right now is. Contrary to how it may appear, my life and it's constant travel is not easy. I have so much responsibility at work these days, the exhaustion of trying to meet every need for my staff, my boss, my clients, my home, my pups and last but not least my DH is overwhelming at times.

Tonight I am having a dinner party for the chef at our club who moved here when we did, became fast friends with me and DH. He celebrated his birthday alone this past week after having finalized his divorce and his three weeks a year visitation with his three kids. Our ability to be the friends he needs now is in no short order because of SWC.

But I have to say, you ladies get me through just as you do others. Sometimes I can't get to SWC when working, and I'll check in at night and you all will literally have saved a marriage, a family, a life sometimes. That is something I've never seen anywhere else. And when given time to myself with DH out of the house and not much that has to be done this moment, I turn to spend time with my friends while drinking coffee, sitting in my bathrobe.

I love SWC.

GolfGeek

I have only been a member for a few days and have received more care and understanding and support and good advice than I ever imagined.

helpme

SWC makes this "stepgig" much easier to manage. I would never have made it in my 2nd marriage without this place.

Tink

This site has the best articles, better than most I find when I Google for stuff.

sue

Wow, I don't know where to begin. I join this group, I say a few words, and wow, I think I cried for about a half hour today as I read your replies....thank you from my heart...sooo much. My husband had me read your notes to him, and he said how wonderful it was to have such a group of supporters. You are the best!

longdxmom

I have been here forever cause I need this place. I don't think it has changed much. I have changed, other people I know have grown and changed. The Steplife grind is hard!! You can come out fine or you can come out coarse. I have seen personality conflicts (the same as you get in 3D life). Heck I know for a fact that I have views that are not compatible with others (you try being an outspoken atheist pacifist humanitarian say around 2-3 years ago....).

When you are really down and you cry out "Please help me I am drowning" These ladies are the first to take off their heels and dive in to hold your head above water.

Ann

I went home yesterday feeling motivated and encouraged and enlightened. You girls are the best! "

LMD

"I don't feel alone anymore. I've been a member for four days now and I wish I had known about the club years ago!!. Yesterday had me laughing and crying all in a matter of 5 minutes. I love it, love it, love it! "

sash

".. this is truly a community, no isn't just a place to chat. Friends challenge us to think, to grow, to question. And they make us laugh and cry. They tell it like it is, even when it's hard to hear."

PennStater

Hi there,

I subscribe to the "From the Homefront" e-zine and over the years have found many interesting article links to your website. Before it became a subsciption website, I also browsed a bit. I am not a second wife, but I am an ex with a child. When we first went our seperate ways, my ex dated/ lived with/ was quickly engaged to a woman I just couldn't get along with. I often looked to your website to try to see things from her point of view, but she really was a person I now realize I wouldn't have been able to get along with, even if she wasn't involved with my ex. He has since left her and dated/ lived with/ married a new lady I adore. I really think your website had something to do with our relationship being such a positive one. I knew her challenges before she even faced them, and have made great efforts to avoid sticky situations. As a result, my daughter is well adjusted and knows her parents as well as her step-parents all love her and work as a team where she is concerned. We're all involved. Yes, it's strange at times, and I do wish things were "normal" for her, but we all try to make it as happy a life for her as we can.

I just thought you should know the impact your website has had on our lives...and I'm not even a second wife. There are always two sides to every story, and because of that I am so thankful to have been able to hear the other side via your website. Keep up the awesome work, and try to be open minded to the ex's out there...(grin)

Wendi S

Thanks again for all the hard work you and the others do to make SWC such a wonderful place to be. I'm still loving SWC after 5 years!

(Zippy)

Thank you so much for the welcome. I have tears at the end of my nose. After I posted a short introduction on the New Members board, I started reading other posts. I can't believe it. Finally I found people who are in a situation similar to mine in so many ways. People who understand. It feels as if someone took a huge burden off my chest. Thank you for making this group happen. It's priceless.

(name withheld for privacy)

I am really glad I found this group. The membership was money well spent obviously, but one cannot put a price on support.

MeowMix

SWC has been a lifesaver and big source of support for me and I am so glad that I found this site and joined in 1998 - I recommend it to other step mothers (second wives) all the time when I meet them in my travels - it is a wonderful - loving - supportive - helpful site that I just would be lost without -

THANK YOU ALL FOR CREATING IT - AND I HOPE IT CONTINUES FOR ALL OF US STEP MOTHERS/SECOND WIVES (OR THIRD) TO HELP EACH OTHER IN OUR UNIQUE SITUATIONS OF STEP LIFE.

THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART

CherylB

SWC and all you ladies have really helped me so much. Not to mention saved me $100's in therapist bills!!

angbow

Reading posts and bonding with you ladies is one of the BEST parts of my day/life!

irishsprite

As a founding member of SWC, I have been a member almost as long as I have been a second wife and stepmom. I can honestly say that without SWC, I would have abandoned this rollercoaster life a long time ago.
Truly a safe haven, I found I was able to express my truest feelings, even when they were pretty ugly, without being judged or attacked. Instead I was welcome with understanding and solid advice that has allowed me to become a better wife, stepmom and person. I have also been blessed with actually meeting many SWC members, including the owner, and I am honored to call them my friends. These are truly remarkable women.

Angela The Insane

I have been a member at SWC for a year now. And my only regret is that I didn't find SWC sooner. The ladies I have met through SWC are top notch. The admin staff does a fantastic job. And I absolutely love being a member. This site is a "must" for all Stepmom's!

level10mom

It's a wonderful site that allows second wives and stepmothers (or stepmoms-to-be) meet each other, vent about our frustrations, and most importantly (to me anyway) be *validated* in our feelings. To know that I wasn't the only woman marrying a man with a vindictive, psychotic ex-wife meant more than anything to me. I've made great friends here, received VERY good advise and learned a lot about step-hood, and also children in general, as I have no biological kids yet. The conduct on SWC is stellar, and the quality of women who are members there is very high. This site is a MUST for any stepmom.

MelissaF

The two benefits of this website are the ease of its use and the support from other stepmoms. Stepparenting is a very difficult lifestyle to manage; having the support of others is essential. The quality of members on this site is unmatched. I've made some great friends through this website and I've made it through many difficult step-family situations since joining. This particular website is one of the best, of not "the" best chat website out there. It's easy to use, easy to express yourself, and has tons of fun options. secondwivesclub.com is more than a website, it is a solid community of friends.

KathyR

This website is a excellent and one I would highly recommend. I found it 2 years ago when I was looking for help dealing with Stepmom / Second Wife Issues. The site admin is very attentive and always looking for ways to improve. They post great articles that will have you reading for days.

The message boards are excellent. I visit this site on a daily basis and am so thankful for the sites excellent support and the ability to connect with the fellow members / second wives who provide invaluable advice and support. I don't know how I handled major issues and kept my sanity before I found this site!

PammyW

There is no other place, either in the "real" world or online that I have found that gives me such peace. And, believe me, I have searched. The peace comes from knowing that the women on this site are going through the same trials and tribulations that I, as a second wife, face every day. I have never posted anything that does not meet with at least one or two "Yes, I've been there" responses. Knowing that I am not alone has given me a sense of belonging and a sense of validation about my feelings. The women I've met on SWC are caring, wise and always give me a new perspective, a new way of thinking about something. The founders of SWC are careful about who is joining their site and I have found the administration of the site to be efficient and complete. Thank you, SWC!

ChristinaL

Melanee

I truly don't know what I would have done without SWC... I am 2 weeks away from marrying a man with a difficult (huge understatement) ex-wife and and 11 year old son. Without the support of the great women on this site I just don't know if I'd have made it this far.

I had so many issues and problems with stepping into his life and taking on his "baggage" that no one in my life could understand....but on this site I found a group of women who understood perfectly. How liberating! After just the first day of reading others posts and writing a few myself and getting so much great advice, I was addicted.

SWC not only helps me get over tough times with my fiance, his son and ex-wife, but I also get great recipes, funny jokes, or just chat about every day stuff with amazing women. I feel like I've gained alot of friends because of this site, women who really care.

Thank God for SWC! I'm not alone anymore =)

myway

This is an ideal site for second wives and stepmoms. The smart, funny and understanding ladies will offer advice and empathy to everyone else dealing w/ SW and SM issues. I have met some wonderful people since being a member (about 5 years now). Excellent resource, and lots of fun. Believe it or not, there are other women experiencing the same things you are. Very high class, well maintained by the administrators.

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